{"id":537,"date":"2014-02-05T11:32:35","date_gmt":"2014-02-05T16:32:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/riverwolflodge.com\/?p=537"},"modified":"2014-02-06T15:40:55","modified_gmt":"2014-02-06T20:40:55","slug":"great-advice-now-what","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/riverwolflodge.com\/?p=537","title":{"rendered":"Great advice!  Now what?!"},"content":{"rendered":"<div style=\"padding-bottom:20px; padding-top:10px;\" class=\"hupso-share-buttons\"><!-- Hupso Share Buttons - http:\/\/www.hupso.com\/share\/ --><a class=\"hupso_toolbar\" href=\"http:\/\/www.hupso.com\/share\/\"><img src=\"http:\/\/static.hupso.com\/share\/buttons\/share-medium.png\" style=\"border:0px; padding-top:5px; float:left;\" alt=\"Share Button\"\/><\/a><script type=\"text\/javascript\">var hupso_services_t=new Array(\"Twitter\",\"Facebook\",\"Google Plus\",\"Pinterest\",\"Linkedin\",\"Digg\",\"Reddit\",\"Email\");var hupso_background_t=\"#EAF4FF\";var hupso_border_t=\"#66CCFF\";var hupso_toolbar_size_t=\"medium\";var hupso_twitter_via = \"eggsmcmanus\";var hupso_image_folder_url = \"\";var hupso_twitter_via=\"eggsmcmanus\";var hupso_url_t=\"\";var hupso_title_t=\"Great advice!  Now what?!\";<\/script><script type=\"text\/javascript\" src=\"http:\/\/static.hupso.com\/share\/js\/share_toolbar.js\"><\/script><!-- Hupso Share Buttons --><\/div><p>It is easy to give advice.\u00a0 When it is time to take advice, however, it is difficult to remove yourself from the situation and have a clear view on how to move forward.\u00a0 It is for this reason that psychologists and psychiatrists have their own therapist and doctors do not diagnose themselves, or rather should not.\u00a0 When facing any difficulties, it is helpful to get an outside opinion in order to get perspective and attain clarity.<\/p>\n<p>I recently experienced this myself.\u00a0 I was having an issue with a friend of mine and found myself at a loss in how to approach things.\u00a0 I carefully thought about what I usually advise others but was unsure of how to proceed because I was emotionally invested in the outcome.\u00a0 I had a very hard time separating what I <i>knew<\/i> to be true with what I <i>wanted<\/i>.\u00a0 The first thing I did was to call someone I trust, who was not involved.\u00a0 Sometimes you need to enlist several people.\u00a0 If you do not have a good support system, I recommend a therapist, a religious or spiritual guide, a teacher or even a complete stranger who is willing to lend an ear.\u00a0 The important thing to note is that no matter who you speak to, you are the one who will resolve the issue.\u00a0 Even with professional help, be aware that they will not solve your problem for you.\u00a0 They cannot perform miracles.\u00a0 They will not give you a magic potion, pills or even the strength to face or do anything.\u00a0 They will make suggestions, provide you with guidelines and offer support.\u00a0 That is it.\u00a0 What you do with that help is entirely up to you.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"line-height: 1.5em;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/riverwolflodge.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/01\/PL-7-Magic-web.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-547\" alt=\"PL 7 Magic web\" src=\"http:\/\/riverwolflodge.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/01\/PL-7-Magic-web.jpg\" width=\"500\" height=\"511\" srcset=\"http:\/\/riverwolflodge.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/01\/PL-7-Magic-web.jpg 500w, http:\/\/riverwolflodge.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/01\/PL-7-Magic-web-293x300.jpg 293w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Knowledge is an amazing thing.\u00a0 The mind processes any information you read, all the advice you receive, every seminar and sermon you attend.\u00a0 The lessons are heard but not applied to your life unless you choose to include them.\u00a0 Everything gets filtered by your state of mind.\u00a0 That is why you can read the same book after many years and have it affect you in a completely different way.\u00a0 The more experience we have, the more knowledge we retain.\u00a0 As we become more confident in ourselves, we interpret the advice we are given more honestly.<\/p>\n<p>Once you have determined how you want to live, it is essential to develop your own personal mantra.\u00a0 You may have only one mantra or many.\u00a0 I have several that I refer to when I am facing adversity.\u00a0 For example, one is \u201cmake the healthy choice.\u201d\u00a0 In my twenties, I struggled with body issues but really wanted to create a healthy lifestyle for myself.\u00a0 This mantra translates easily into many aspects of life.\u00a0 When thinking about dinner or whether or not to stay up late, I will repeat my mantra and make a choice.\u00a0 I don\u2019t always make the healthy choice, but that is why I also have the mantra \u201cForgive.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>When you incorporate a mantra into your routine, it becomes part of your conscience.\u00a0 When used correctly, it will help keep you on the path you have chosen.\u00a0 Each time you listen to that little voice inside, you will gain strength and courage to be true to yourself.\u00a0 When it came to the problem with my friend, my little voice reminded me of another rule I try to live by,\u00a0 \u201cbe honest.\u201d\u00a0 That is one of my most important mantras because it goes hand in hand with who I have become as a person.\u00a0 The only way to live everyday to the fullest and feel good about who you are is to be honest.\u00a0 That is one of hardest things to do in life.\u00a0 Personally, it has ended several friendships but it gave me the confidence to be who I am today. \u00a0 The friends who have stood by me, know what they are getting with my friendship.\u00a0 When I analyzed my dilemma along with the help of a good friend, I realized that I was not actually hurt by my other friend\u2019s actions, but was upset about the circumstances around the situation, over which neither one of us had any control.\u00a0 In the end, what I needed was simply to communicate my feelings to her.\u00a0 A true friend will listen, help you cope and give you the love and support you need.<span style=\"line-height: 1.5em;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/riverwolflodge.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/02\/PL-7-Help-yourself-web.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-551\" alt=\"PL 7 Help yourself web\" src=\"http:\/\/riverwolflodge.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/02\/PL-7-Help-yourself-web.jpg\" width=\"288\" height=\"371\" srcset=\"http:\/\/riverwolflodge.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/02\/PL-7-Help-yourself-web.jpg 288w, http:\/\/riverwolflodge.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/02\/PL-7-Help-yourself-web-232x300.jpg 232w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 288px) 100vw, 288px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Keep in mind, there may not be a solution to your problem.\u00a0 You need to look at the facts, accept what is out of your control and choose to come to terms with the situation.\u00a0 You will decide what to do based on advice, instinct and chosen path.\u00a0 Your mantra should help you take action and move forward.\u00a0 Using this method, one problem at a time you will slowly take control of your life and your happiness.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<div style=\"padding-bottom:20px; padding-top:10px;\" class=\"hupso-share-buttons\"><!-- Hupso Share Buttons - http:\/\/www.hupso.com\/share\/ --><a class=\"hupso_toolbar\" href=\"http:\/\/www.hupso.com\/share\/\"><img src=\"http:\/\/static.hupso.com\/share\/buttons\/share-medium.png\" style=\"border:0px; padding-top:5px; float:left;\" alt=\"Share Button\"\/><\/a><script type=\"text\/javascript\">var hupso_services_t=new Array(\"Twitter\",\"Facebook\",\"Google Plus\",\"Pinterest\",\"Linkedin\",\"Digg\",\"Reddit\",\"Email\");var hupso_background_t=\"#EAF4FF\";var hupso_border_t=\"#66CCFF\";var hupso_toolbar_size_t=\"medium\";var hupso_twitter_via = \"eggsmcmanus\";var hupso_image_folder_url = \"\";var hupso_twitter_via=\"eggsmcmanus\";var hupso_url_t=\"\";var hupso_title_t=\"Great advice!  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